First Impressions

30th January, 2013 - Posted by Marie Fang - No Comments

We’re all familiar with what it feels like when we’re in a new environment, maybe after starting at a new school, job, or church where you’re surrounded by unknown faces. Often we’re concerned about how we should act around other people to make a good impression. If we’re at a  new school, we may be considering what kind of “persona” we want to give off to others to appear cool or interesting. If we’re at a new job, we may want others to see how productive and talented we are. If we’re at a church, we may want to somehow exude our “holiness” to others (whatever that looks like exactly).

If you’re like most people, you may spend a sizable amount of time considering how you appear to others in these situations, and may even be worried or anxious about it. Somehow we can get so caught up in these concerns that we often forget that the very people we are trying to impress may also be having similar anxieties about what you may be thinking about them.

Sometimes I wonder what sort of effect this universal sense of self-consciousness may have on first impressions. Is it possible that we spend so much time worrying about what others think that we actually miss opportunities to meet new friends?

What if we saw ourselves the way God sees us? How does God see us, anyway? I think it’s easy to forget, so here are some reminders: God’s word says “God created man in His own image” (Gen 1:27), and that “you are God’s temple” (1 Cor 3:16). Imagine if instead of focusing so much on what other people think, you truly believed that God sees you as His temple. Do you think people might notice that and, in turn, be more likely to find you likable?

Try it! You may be pleasantly surprised. You may also find that others may be more genuine when they see that you aren’t putting up a front.

-Marie Fang, Psy.D.

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